Wah again..Dear Little White Rabbit & Young Lady Dana !

Care to tell me your beloved "wonder woman", what show is that

Our Young Lady, ana: I think Mui didn't go for the tonsillectomy, because media never reported about it. As I already mentioned, one will have tonsillitis when one is physically very weak. She didn't work for a few years for movies after this 'WTMWTW' & "Eight Spring" . So Mui might manage to get rid of it by improving her health instead during those years. In fact, she did put on weight and look healthier, even prettier when emerged again after a long period of rest.

Agree with you that "DOAD" totally wasted the talent of Mui as being a good dancer. Many non Mui fans actually went to see the movie because of Mui, as they wanted to see her dancing. But of course it's a disappointment. The investor/producer thought by mistake that a comedy might have better box office. But really not necessary. Anyhow, even not many dancing scenes, Mui really looked gorgeous in that movie, and her dancing just mesmerized all the audience. It again proves "quality is more important than quantity". After watching her dancing, then watched the other one dancing, you would immediately tell what a great born dancer Mui was. Just Super

Cutie ana: you really have post a good but easy Question: Would anyone w/an unpleasant past, wish to remind oneself in whatever circumstances? Of course no lar. But I have a question for you in return: Should one always live in the shadow of the unpleasant past? In Mui's case, she is such a prominent artist, why she could not get rid of her inferiority complex except on the stage?

I won't rush you, take your time, but hope to get a satisfactory/acceptable answer from you, the expert in this field.

My dearest Woodstock, thank you for your patience.

Question 1: Nope. We need to learn to move forward w/our lives. Our past is a lesson for us to learn n not for us to dwell on as life is too short to be always thinking of the past. We have to live for the present n for the future. Should one choose to hold on to the past, Im sure he/she will be unhappy n its like living in a world of the impossible which will affect their personality n their relationship w/those who love them dearly.

As for question 2: On stage, perhaps Anita believed that shes a different person altogether. She was a Superstar, w/her everchanging image, she could be anyone. Life on stage is abt a person who is glamorous n flawless beyond doubt, loved by everyone.
Those thunderous applause n screams of approval gives her encouragement. Besides that, it could also help to regain her lack of confidence. W/such an achievement she could be the happiest on stage as all thoughts of inferiority were abandoned.

Whereas when off stage, Anita might have felt inadequate w/out her costumes n the on stage effects. There is a possibility she is the type who has a tendency to dwell in the past n couldnt help suspecting what the public might think of her. The lack of self-confidence of her image from the past n the harsh realities of life could posed a major effect thus making her feel inferior once more.

Hope my answers are acceptable, Woodstock? Question again: Is there any reason for you to believe Anita might have this sense of inferiority, Woodstock?

ana: your reply is not only acceptable, but excellent. My applause

I agree totally to whatever you said. Only thing I might add is that not only "suspecting what the public might think of her.", might also supsect what the people around might think of her. Also the scars left on her little heart might be really too deep in her early age from the environment she was working.

She always said she only found herself on the stage, I wonder why, and also a pity,that none of her friends helped her to overcome this obstacle in her life or weakness in herself.

ana, now please tell us what if a person, or Mui, should do if she found this problem in her life. What other people could do to help her to boost up her self confidence in order to overcome the inferiority complex? And what other remedies would you like to advice? Thank you in advance!

Woodstock & Dana, thank you for both your questions and answers. You made me think again.

I agree that we should not dwell so much on the past especially for the unhappy experiences. However, it is not a easy task when the hurt is so deep and painful. Anita's childhood, or lack of childhood ,her brought-up were not just s scar. Having a scar means that you have recovered, it was a bleeding wound. Recovery takes time. Rumours, gossips, misunderstandings and negative comemnts from the media never left her alone. She was continuously being reminded of the unhappy past through her songs and even movies. There were all sorts of insinuations about her private life and romance in the magazines, newspaper. Even TVB produced a soap many years ago insinuating her and many other artistes (A really disgusting soap). I doubt if anyone can walk out from the shadow easily in such an unhealthy environment.

Grandma: Thanks for making me look at the whole thing one step further. Yep, the wound never healed. When it stopped bleeding for a little while, someone poked at it again, got injured once more. Mui forever lived in the shadow of her past, as she wasn't given a chance to recover. But she was brave enough to live on in such an environment where the media plays a major role. Right?

Hi Woodstock,Dana, Angel & Grandma

Hmn...profound discussion.. yea...

Somehow i felt otherwise. Anita gave me the feeling that she's not the bit bothered by her past as she knew very well that if without her childhood experiences she won't be the Anita Mui that we all knew.Her past experience actually moulded her into such a Great & Accomplished Performer and that this past had actually given her everything that she had.

Just imagine,40 years of life and 36 years of them in performing..simply amazing...no one can replace her as none will have the kind of experience and training at so young a age.

From past articles & interviews,can be read that her inferior complex was that she felt that she did not have a proper education,she knew about nothing else except singing. She probably felt out of place as everyone had some form of education.

I felt that she had shown great improvement in knowledge since the 90s (she said that she read more and even watched more informative programme to improve herself). i thought taking up the movie "Midnight Fly " in which most of the dialogue was in english, was a great step for her as she was not confident in speaking the language. She spoke relatively well ! Notice recent years that she used more English during interviews.

Her group of friends...sign...sad to say this...but are of no help to her at all ... Really !!! They could have encouraged her more and talked to her more often so as to help her re-assured herself. BUT then....most artists have got their own problems too..well....

Hello! Woodstock, ngel, grandma, Mossimo n all..

Thank you so much for your 'small little thumb', hugs n kisses, Woodstock N why only 11roses, Woodstock? As before, Angel gave me 11roses n Im supposed to be the 12th..hee..hee.. What is your definition of your 11roses, Woodstock?

Should it be an unpleasant past/lack of education, Anita did has a sense of inferiority, then.
Being traumatized[exposed to pain n sufferings etc since small should posed a greater damage, umm..as for lack of education, Im sure more than a handful out there in society have little/no education, could be professionals too. Education is not a problem as it is within reach, anytime, anywhere, regardless of age, yea???

Well, Im not qualified to give any advise/suggestions as Im only a student, Woodstock. I can only give you my views to your questions.

The problem lies w/her n she has to find a way to conquer it..seeing a psychologist will only help her to realize the root of her problem[her inferiority] but will never 100% help overcome it.[I remembered an article, yea..from one of her past interviews, she was interested n had tried to read more on psychology. She could be trying to find a solution to overcome her problem on her own{which should be a good motivation from herself} Why on her own? ..once again its the media's interference.] The onslaught of the media has always been the main culprit from the 1st day she was recognized. Being a Superstar, she should know that most tabloids write trash even after death ..she could demand the press to shut up but then theyll probably labelled her a 'stuck-up snob'

She needs to accept her own identity, acknowledged her past, be proud of her achievements n success n the fact that she did it all on her own. If she cant accept herself, no amount of supportive words from anyone can help her[doubt there is a bosom friend that she can confide in furthermore, as mentioned by Woodstock, Anita prefered to keep everything to herself.]

But I understand n do believed Anita gradually did overcome her problem, finding peace n tranquility towards the later stage of her career


Dear grandma, no matter how difficult her path was, Anita never gave up. Anita was a survivor w/an indomitable spirit

Helo Dana

U sure reply fast..

Yea, right, education is never a problem..she can always get it back later, but then again, she also mentioned that she was more happy singing on stage then going to school....well, u know her,for all u know,she porbably be bored if she'll to go back to school again...

Yes, agreed that she finally came to terms with herself later on BUT it's sososo sad that it's also at the ending part of her life too

Hi! ana! Skin Grafting's over and has completely healed , that's why now I'm back into posting! I miss all of you and can't wait to answer your old questions. Btw, nice discussion you have in here....thanks for all those who have shared and have given their 2 cents on the given discussion, thus, making us, readers do our own Q & A on what is really behind Anita's inferiority complex, it's effect on her and her career. I agree though with Dana's opinion. Well said

So, Dana back to your old question re: WTMWTW and DOAD. Since you are asking which one from the 2 movies do I prefer, I'd choose WTMWTW. Though you are right that both of these movies are not really concentrated/focused on her. But between the two, I'd picked WTMWTW, for the reason that I guess, have been greatly influenced from what I've read that Anita was not happy with the result of DOAD, thus she was seen alone and drunk in Happy Valley...